First of all, determine who will be the receiver and who the giver. If you are the giver, invite your partner to lay down with the back facing you on a bed, massage table or blanket put on the ground.
Make sure that your partner is comfortable and warm. Now, sit on the ground and lay your hands on your partner gently.
An erotic massage is your unique chance to be attuned to your partner and honour him or her. Breathing with your partner is one of the many ways to be truly attuned.
Using a feather, fur or simply your fingertips, awaken your partner’s body by making light strokes.
Once you find yourself ready to start, take warm oil and massage all over your partner’s body using long but slow movements.
Massage is rarely about just the body surface, and much more about connecting on a deeper level. Encourage your partner to breathe deeply, move the body a little, and make various sounds, in order to let the energy associated with his or her body move, awaken and get released.
Be creative with your approach. Playfully massage your partner using various parts of the body, like arms, chest, hair etc.
After about half of the total time you decided to dedicate to massaging passes, ask your partner to rotate his or her body. Massage the rest of his or her body as described above.
Once your partner seems ready, explore his or her genital area. When it comes to SkyDancing Tantra, the vagina is referred to as ‘Yoni’, meaning ‘Cosmic Matrix’, while the penis is referred to as ‘Vajra’, meaning ‘Thunderbolt’.
At first concentrate only on the outer genital area, making gentle and slow motions. Let your partner release all tension existing in the region before moving forward.
Consider your partner’s reactions by listening to his or her body well. What makes him or her aroused? What type of strokes gives your partner the most pleasure?
Be creative with your strokes, testing different types of movements. In case internal massage is on your list, use lubricant that is water-based.
End with the help of spooning together, while you connect both the heart centres using compassion, love and gratitude.
After helping your partner sit up or rise, finally end the process by offering Heart Salutation. Give your partner delicious juice or water to sip, along with fruit or chocolate to eat.